“If we would treat our partners the way we treat our friends, we would have less problems in our intimate relationships” said William Glasser, the founder of Choice Theory and Reality Therapy. We all have a need for Love and Belonging and our partners / family and our friends contribute to us meeting this need. […]
Very recently, I have been asked “what makes me happy” and ever since, I have been thinking about it. My initial response was: “a balance between work and family life”. But what does that mean? How does that make me happy? Firstly, I know about myself that I want to work; working brings me a […]
  I heard before that being a perfectionist is a sign of low self-esteem and I struggled with it at the time. How can wanting everything to be perfect can be a sign of low self-worth? Perfectionists are nice people who, generally, help others, they are very reliable and do everything on their own. You […]
Get Connected with the Important People in your Life People need other people in their lives. We need to relate and connect with others. We need to belong. We need to build and maintain relationships. Research shows that close relationships are crucial to our well-being. Furthermore, people are happier when they are with other people […]
Building Your Self-Esteem Self-esteem is built through constant encouragement and support, through praise and acknowledgment of achievements. It is a long process and, ideally, starts early in life. It is a lot easier to build self esteem in children, while they grow up. They get their cues from their parents, teachers or their significant adults. […]
Self-esteem  “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing that is stupid” – Albert Einstein We are all so different and we see each-other in so many ways. We make judgments and we form opinions about people we meet. […]
What do we tell teenagers when a parent dies? Death is a fact of life. Adolescents, just like younger children, need honesty; they have the ability to choose what is best for them in order to cope with the death of their mum or dad. They can model adult behavior and go through the tasks […]
What do we tell children when a parent dies? When we’re older, we have a different understanding of death then we have when we are children. Children are extremely vulnerable because they depend on their parents for their survival need. So, what do you tell them when a parent dies? Some believe that if you […]
Support in Our Lives Do we need others in our lives? Some believe that they are self-sufficient, others believe that they can only be happy when they are in a relationship. No matter how you look at it, people need to relate to one another in order to lead a meaningful life. I’ve recently listened […]
Relationships, the power of habit and “Hope Springs” Relationships are complex. “Hope Springs” is a movie about relationships and about real life as it is. “Hope Springs” is a wonderful depiction of reality, of married life, of loneliness and happiness together. The married couple are well settled into their routine until one of them realizes […]
Parenting Teenagers Along with teenage years come a lot of challenges. Don’t they say: “Bigger kids, bigger problems”? There is no doubt that parents can find themselves lost, not knowing what to do when their adorable child turns into a total stranger overnight. They don’t like the things they loved before, they want to be […]
Parenting young children I have recently had the pleasure of being invited to present, together with Carol Lynch, on Parenting, at the National Convention in Reality Therapy in Athlone. The following is a handout used at our workshop. It is one of the most inspirational stories I have ever read. It was written by W. […]