Support in Our Lives

Do we need others in our lives? Some believe that they are self-sufficient, others believe that they can only be happy when they are in a relationship. No matter how you look at it, people need to relate to one another in order to lead a meaningful life.

I’ve recently listened to a song that said: “every time you fall, I’ll catch you”. I thought it was the most reassuring message that I’ve ever heard. We all want to be strong and independent. Yet, sometimes it’s very difficult to keep going. And as we get physically or mentally tired, how important would it be to just not worry about it, to know that no matter what, there is someone there for you, a partner, a friend, a husband, a mother or a brother. Support is so important and as we go through our lives, sooner or later, we realize that we need help. Having the courage to admit that you can’t manage on your own any more is just that: a courageous act that shows how strong you are and how aware you are of your own resources. I had clients saying that asking for help is almost like admitting a failure and every time I hear it I strongly disagree with it. None of us are super-humans able to push their limit and coping mechanisms indefinitely.

If you think about it, there are so many roles that we take on every day: a woman could be a mother, a worker, a wife, a daughter and many more; a man could be a father, a son, a brother, a wage earner and many more. Do you see how trying to fulfill all these roles can wear you off? And if you do it, day in – day out, there is no wonder that you may fall apart after a while if you have no support.

Listen to these lyrics and look for comfort when you need it:   “Fall / Go on and fall apart / Fall into these arms of mine / I’ll catch you / Every time you fall / Go on and lose it all / Every doubt, every fear / Every worry, every tear / I’m right here”

This is about someone looking for support; but it goes the other way around, too: you may be the strong person supporting a child, a father, a wife, a husband, a sister or a brother when they most need it. And I know that it means the world to them.

Whether you give or receive support it’s OK and it tells you that you lead a meaningful life, with important relations around you.

However, there are many people who don’t have anybody to turn towards and it is up to them to build up friendships and maintain relationships. It might be a very slow process and it might take a while but it is achievable and it’s well worth it.

All you need to do is figure out who you want in your life and find a way to create and sustain those relationships.