Get Connected
Get Connected with the Important People in your Life
People need other people in their lives. We need to relate and connect with others. We need to belong. We need to build and maintain relationships. Research shows that close relationships are crucial to our well-being. Furthermore, people are happier when they are with other people than when they are alone. It doesn’t matter if you are introvert or extrovert, if you are the quiet type or you’re in the limelight, if you are in a romantic relationship or if you are single – your chance of happiness increases when you are together with other people. Belonging gives us a sense of identity. When we feel we belong to a group or community, we understand more about ourselves, we know who we are and what we do makes sense. When we belong, we make good choices, we are more helpful, we feel secure and we are more fun to be with.
However, people have busy lives and not enough time to do everything they would like. We prioritize and many times we put aside meeting friends and making connections. Life takes over and we may discover that one or two years have gone since we spoke with a particular friend or important person in our life. Did you ever meet a friend and said: “Oh my God, I can’t believe it, is it really that long since we saw each other?” or “I can’t get over the fact that your child is two. It felt like yesterday we met and she was only 6 months old”. The danger is that as we lose connections we find ourselves lonelier and we don’t know what to do. Should we wait for the other person to call or should we make the first step?
It is never too late to connect or re-connect with people. Think about the important persons in your life. Is there someone with whom you haven’t talked in a long time and you’d like to re-establish connections? Many may be put off by the fact that a long time had passed and they begin worrying about what the other person might say if they’re being contacted all of a sudden. What happens if you worry and do nothing? Exactly that happens: nothing. Change nothing and all will stay the same.
But if you choose to pick up the phone or write a message, you will increase your chances of happiness by re-connecting with an old friend. Your call, Your choice!